“the entire fee” in anything but a standard uncontested divorce. In fact, be wary
of attorneys who promise to handle your entire case for a fixed sum, since it is
impossible at the outset to tell what will occur.
Be sure you understand the hourly rate of your lawyer, how the billing
takes place, when you're expected to "refresh the retainer" and so on.
Be sure to ask lots of questions if you want answers and you want to know
how you will be charged in your case -- after all, it’s your money.
8. WHAT SHOULD I WATCH OUT FOR?
A Lots of things, but four in particular are very important:
Alimony, maintenance, or spousal support (in many jurisdictions) must be
requested in court before the divorce is granted in most states in order to "keep
it alive" for the judge to decide. If you don't want alimony, or if you make more
than your spouse, that's fine. But if you're a dependent spouse and you intend
to ask the court for alimony, discuss this with your divorce lawyer at the outset.
That means before the divorce is granted.
Support for your family isn’t necessarily resolved in a divorce. Don’t stop
paying family support unless the court tells you that you can or specifies a
different amount than Army regulations. This is a matter to discuss with your
LAA or your civilian lawyer.
Property division (sometimes called equitable distribution) should also be
done at or before the time of the divorce. The division of marital (or community)
property is alive and well in all 50 states, and you should be sure to request this
in your "pleadings" (the complaint or petition for divorce) so as to preserve this
for the court to decide if you and your spouse cannot "work things out" by
agreement (or, in the case of dividing military pension rights, a consent order).
An agreement, of course, would probably be the cheapest way to resolve this
issue, but that's not always possible if the two of you don't see eye-to-eye. Talk
to your lawyer about this also. Make a list for him or her of all the property
either of you has acquired during the marriage (real estate, motor vehicles,
bank accounts, household furnishings, stocks and investments, retirement
assets) to make easier the job of deciding on whether an agreement can be
reached. And don’t forget the debts that either or both of you accumulated for
marital purposes during the marriage.
Recognition of your divorce “back home” (in the U.S.) may be a problem if
you get your divorce overseas. American courts are required by the U.S.
Constitution to recognize and honor the orders and decree of their sister
states (so Kentucky, for example, would have to honor and enforce your
divorce decree from Arizona). But U.S. courts do not have to recognize
court decrees from other countries. Your divorce decree and child support
order from Belgium, for example, may not be honored in Florida. If you get
a decree of divorce and custody in Korea, it need not be recognized and